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Family First!

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I often write about, or tag my posts, as Family First!

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My family, Thanksgiving 2015

But what this means to me and my family is we put the needs of our whole family and needs of each individual above our individual needs.

This is something that we’ve been prioritizing as a family for years, but particularly after my diagnosis, we made choices for our family that were about our family and each individuals needs.

One way that we began to understand one another to be better family members to each other, to really be able to communicate our feelings and love more effectively, was to determine our love languages. I had read late last year about the 5 Love Languages of Homeschooling on Jaime Martin’s blog, Simple Homeschool.

I had read about the 5 Love Languages of Homeschooling on Jaime Martin’s blog, Simple Homeschool.

In 2015, we finally worked on using each other’s love languages this year: It was a game-changer.

This handy on-line Love Language quiz can help you determine your love language, as well as that of your child. It was a fun one-on-one activity that I was able to do with every {human} member of my home. It’s really for all families, children and adults, not just homeschooling families.

However, if you are looking for a way to learn more about yourself and how you relate to other adults, be it your parents, your partner, your friends, you will find the original book, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts, to be the first stop. I read this book as a newlywed and it made a huge impact on not only how I looked at my husband, but how I began to look at our relationship. It was no longer about me, it was about how we could ‘we’.

By choosing our priority as our family, we’re able to make choices on what is best for each of us to be the best we can be. We weave our activities around one another leaving plenty of room for margin in our lives for time together.

What does this look like in practice?

We moved from our family and lifelong friends in the Midwest across the country for my husband to accept a position at a company he’d wanted to work for his entire adult life. We stay so he can continue to work at a different company, but doing a job he really loves. My family respects my plants in the garden not because they love them, but they know I do. And of course, children – homeschooling them – well, that’s an entire volume of decisions to empower our children through interest-led learning to be the people they want to be now so they can continue to be the people they want to be when they are adults.

Putting Family First is a conscious decision which dictates our family rhythm. It’s our way of life.

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What’s your way of life?

 

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