Pinned to the top of my Twitter Feed is this post I retweeted from Kayla Todd: Victims being asked to relive the victimization creates more pain #MeToo
— bikurgurl (@bikurgurl) October 17, 2017
Kayla’s post was a quote from Lindy West who said: “ “I wish women didn’t have to rip our pasts open & show you everything & let you ogle our pain for you to believe us.” – Lindy West #MeToo ” (October 16, 2017)
“I wish women didn’t have to rip our pasts open & show you everything & let you ogle our pain for you to believe us.” -Lindy West #MeToo
— Kayla Todd (@KaylaAlexTodd) October 16, 2017
I am saddened when I relive some of my own experiences, it weighs heavily on me. I also realize part of the reason I started my blog was to use my voice. To voice my thoughts, concerns, and impart my small part to make the world a better place.
Social media is full of women stepping forward, humans acknowledging the harassment, abuse, sexual misconduct — particularly by men in authoritative positions. Fearing retribution either in the workplace, in the education system, or in their lives, having to carry this burden is enough.
To have to explain the circumstances is victimizing the victim again. And again. And again.
As Alex Harnack posted on Twitter: “If you see some women not posting #metoo chances are they’ve still been harassed but feel silenced by a society that tends to punish the woman who was harassed and not the man who harassed her” (October 16, 2017)
if you see some women not posting #metoo chances are they’ve still been harassed but feel silenced by a society that tends to punish the woman who was harassed and not the man who harassed her
— Alex Harnack (@anack) October 16, 2017
Shaming runs rampant in our society — trying to be better than or more than. Why can’t we realize there is enough room for us all. Each as individuals to be seen for the beauty we have inside, the light that shines in each of us, there is enough ____LOVE_______ (but you fill in the blank for your situation) to go around. The idea of putting others down to bolster ourselves? Harassment or belittlement? It speaks more to the person harassing than the victim being harassed. We all need love. We can all lift each other up.
Amity Adrisi, a local King 5 Seattle News Morning Anchor and Reporter, shared her story. On the air. I love the way she frames her story — She lifts herself up and gives herself grace and space every day.
— KING 5 News (@KING5Seattle) October 17, 2017
I’ve written quite a bit about Grace and Space we deserve to give that grace and space to ourselves and each other. It sickens me to read the stories and see how it’s affected every one of us — women, men….humans. Whether you have been abused, witnessed abuse, or helped the abused; even if you are the abuser — the time has come. Stop. Stop sweeping it under the carpet. Stop making excuses for the behavior, the words, the physicality, the judgement. I consider how long it’s taken for sexual abuse and harassment of women has come to the forefront this week: it’s on the heels of many other social ‘norms’ being questioned. It’s about damn time. It’s time for us to air our ‘dirty little secrets’.
Together we stand…
We don’t have to tell our story – as women, we know the story. We’ve lived the lurid details. We deserve better, we deserve to feel empowered as women, we need to continue to band together — work with other marginalized groups — for the revolution to continue ❤